STRIPPED: Drop Your Patterns

Stop Staring at the Dots: How to Beat Texting Anxiety

Episode Summary

Have you ever stared at your phone, rewriting a text 17 times before finally hitting send—only to immediately regret it? Or sat there watching the little dot-dot-dot bubble… waiting… waiting… and then—nothing? Welcome to texting anxiety. In this episode of STRIPPED: Drop Your Patterns, I’m pulling back the curtain on one of the biggest stressors in modern dating: the pressure to “get it right” over text. Whether it’s waiting the “perfect” number of hours to reply, second-guessing your emojis, or spiraling when you don’t hear back right away, the truth is—it’s not about the text. It’s about the story your brain is running while you’re texting. I’ll share a client story that shows how texting anxiety can tank momentum, break down why those unspoken “rules” of texting don’t actually work, and give you simple mindset and practical shifts to bring confidence back into the conversation.

Episode Notes

Have you ever stared at your phone, rewriting a text 17 times before finally hitting send—only to immediately regret it? Or sat there watching the little dot-dot-dot bubble… waiting… waiting… and then—nothing?

Welcome to texting anxiety.

In this episode of STRIPPED: Drop Your Patterns, I’m pulling back the curtain on one of the biggest stressors in modern dating: the pressure to “get it right” over text. Whether it’s waiting the “perfect” number of hours to reply, second-guessing your emojis, or spiraling when you don’t hear back right away, the truth is—it’s not about the text. It’s about the story your brain is running while you’re texting.

I’ll share a client story that shows how texting anxiety can tank momentum, break down why those unspoken “rules” of texting don’t actually work, and give you simple mindset and practical shifts to bring confidence back into the conversation.

Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:

• Why both men and women secretly play by the same texting “rules” (and why those rules kill connection).
• How your story—not your words—is what’s actually creating anxiety (and how to change it).
• A powerful mindset reframe that instantly shifts your texting energy from needy → magnetic.
• One practical question to ask yourself before hitting send that keeps you grounded and authentic.

👉 If you’re tired of overthinking your messages and want to show up more confident, natural, and connected in dating, this episode is for you.

And don’t miss Part 2 next week, where I’ll unpack the most common texting traps—and how to avoid them.

Reflect: What story are you telling yourself when texting someone you like?

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